The world of dating has changed completely from our parents’ generation. No one is meeting each other in bars and no one is making any grand gestures. We don’t even need to shower or put pants on to find love. Not when your soul mate is a click – or a swipe – away.
In the past 5 years, there has been much advancement in the world of technology, from paying a friend back on your phone to finding a cab anywhere, anytime – we rely solely on our smart phones. So much, in fact, that we have turned to them to find love. Or at least a date.
The newest dating application, Tinder, is a quick and easy way to find singles in your area, by swiping right (yes) or left (no). It is connected to your Facebook account and allows the user to choose (up to six) photos that will potentially hook-in possible suitors. Making sure your profile picture is perfect requires a lot of time, energy, and sometimes, Photoshop.
Tinder is free, fast, and full of hopeful romantics that have resorted to playing a newer version of Hot or Not. You like someone, you swipe right. If that person also likes you, it’s a match! From there, you are allowed to openly message them, hopefully igniting some kind of spark.
But, with so many people using Tinder, and usually getting so many matches, it is almost impossible to have a conversation that lasts longer than a summer in Alaska.
As an avid user of this application, I have grown tired and weary of ever finding love – or even someone to go to the movies with. Not that I’m uninteresting (my mom thinks I have the personality of Dick Clark) it’s just that there is so much competition, and in a world of wanting “The Next Best Thing”, it is nearly impossible to sustain a conversation when you are being matched with five new people a day.
So, how do you find love on Tinder?
Well, for starters, be different. Bring something new to the table. Instead of the usual “Hey there” try something inventive and exciting. When you are matched, you can see if you have any friends or interests in common, so work with that. If you both like “Family Guy” ask who their favorite character is. If you both like Mumford & Sons, talk about the time you went to see them in concert.
It’s hard to say if these matches will eventually create some sort of spark or you’ll find love, but it’s something to do while you wait for lives on Candy Crush, right?